the coaching process

1. Determine what you want

The first step will be to determine exactly what it is you want.

This is really important. John Whitmore (1992) argues that people often start by describing what's feasible before talking about what they want, or outlining goals. This is a mistake because it limits you from the get-go. Instead of thinking of inspiring and creative goals that truly motivate you, you're likely to stop short with negative, limited goals.

We will start with a coaching assessment to analyze your values and skills which will measure long term goals and dreams. Our true inspirations are often not under our control because there are so many outside influences and social factors that come into play. For instance, it might depend on people we work with, the values we were raised with, or the economy. We will set steps and milestones that lead to the end goal.

2. Assessing where you are right now

Coaching is about helping you get from where you are to where you want to be. Now that you know where you want to be, I will help you objectively assess where you are right now.

I believe that an objective point of view is critical in mastering our own inner challenger. In order to reach our goals, we need to be able to fact check our reality in an unbiased, detached manner. To help you, I will ask you questions that call for answers that are specific and descriptive, instead of general and judgmental. I will never judge where you are because believe me, I have been there too.

During this stage you'll look not only at external circumstances, but also your own inner processes and habits that might serve to jeopardize your progress. You'll need to take this into account when tackling that goal, so it's crucial you're open, objective and fact-based in your assessment of reality.

3. Reviewing your resources and options

Next, we will begin to brainstorm all the resources, options and courses of action at your disposal that could help you to accomplish your goals. In this stage, it is important to leave aside critical judgments (such as "I can't afford that") and just generate as many ideas as possible.

During this stage you'll want to identify your resources. According to Grant and Greene, "Resources could be personal experience, mentors, influential people in your life, teacher, books, paintings, music." Resources are where we draw our strength and inspiration. They center us and After you figure out your resources and list possible courses of action, you'll want to cast a critical eye on your options to factor in costs and benefits of each possible course of action. But this won't come until after you let your creative juices flow and really let yourself think of any possibility.

4. Creating an action plan

I will assist you in designing a plan that will take you from where you are right now to where you want to be in the future. We will determine the steps you need to pursue.
In this plan, you'll figure out:

  • What you're going to do and when you're going to do it.
  • What types of obstacles will be in your way, and what support you need.
  • How this action will contribute towards meeting your goal.
After this coaching session, I will ask you to fill out a follow up in which you'll put in writing what you have decided, to solidify your commitment and keep on track.

5. Instilling motivation and keeping you on track

Throughout the coaching process, we will work to keep your motivation and commitment high. We will do so by making sure you keep you in touch with your values so that you have ongoing reasons to stay "in the flow" towards your goals. We will also dispel anything blocking your way, such as fears or limiting beliefs.

I will make sure you stay on track. It's easier to commit to an action plan than to follow through. By using a series of coaching tools, we will keep you on track. For instance, you might be asked to journal about your experience, in order to bring up long standing internal patterns you might have that aren't working with you. By writing about them, you increase self-awareness and the ability to recalibrate. You’ll also keep track of your progress and report them to me. Last, we will keep calibrating by giving you self-assessments to measure such things as your values, or gaps in your life that need addressing.

6. Celebrating successes along the way

Throughout your coaching journey, we will be sure to mark your victories along the way. People often concentrate on what they want to change, or what isn't working in their personal or business lives. But it's equally important to take note of what you're doing right. This gives you confidence and keeps you motivated!

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